How to Pick A Career You Like
Dec19

How to Pick A Career You Like

Most career problems stem from the fact that we are terrible at picking jobs. We think we are picking a good job and then it turns out to be a bad job. It’s almost impossible to pick a good job on the first try, actually. So don’t think you’ll be the exception. I’m not an exception either. When the reality TV people came to our farm , I expected that it would be fun for them and it would suck for me. In fact, though, my family had a really good time, and I couldn’t believe how difficult the work was for the film crew. Economist Neil Howe, says that only 5% of people pick the right job on the first try. He calls those people “fast starters” and in general, they are less creative, less adventurous and less innovative, which makes a conventional, common path work well for them. So it’s questionable whether you should even aspire to be one of those people who picks right the first try. But, that said, we all still want to be good at choosing paths for ourselves. So, here are some guidelines to think about – whether it’s our first career or our fifth career. Don’t believe the hype. We have a grass-is-greener approach to professions that are not our own. For example,this award-winnng video from Chipotle about farmers becoming more animal-friendly pretends that it’s just a mental and emotional evolution for farmers to realize that going back to nature, and being good to animals, is what feels best, so they should do it. It’s so easy, for example, to take the pigs out of an assembly line. The Chipotle video is total crap, to be honest. It’s not that farmers don’t know that pigs on pasture is nicer. It’s that there is no market for pigs on pasture because consumers won’t pay enough to eat humane meat (without farrowing crates, for example, pork prices would quadruple). So the idea that being a farmer is so beautiful and back-to-the land is just absurd. Being a farmer is actually really complicated, hard entrepreneurial work with very low wages. Another example of a hyped up job is a lawyer. You see their exciting life on TV: a gloriously safe path from college to law school to a high paying job. But behind the scenes, each year the American Bar Association conducts a survey to ask if lawyers would recommend their profession to other people, and the vast majority of lawyers say no. Pick a lifestyle not a job title. Look at the lives you see people having, and ask yourself whose life you would want. That’s easy,...

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A Wise Woman Builds Her Home
Dec01

A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

A wise woman doesn’t take anything for granted. She is thankful to be loved and seeks to make herself more lovely. A wise woman doesn’t allow herself to be a liability but strives to be an asset to the marriage bond. She looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because she is his wife. A wise woman seeks to be a part of her husband’s life. His interest becomes her interest. She looks for ways to help him in every endeavor in which he is involved. When he needs a helping hand, it is her hand that is there first. A wise woman knows that his peace of mind (and sometimes, wise understanding) is something she can give or take away by her observations and conversation concerning circumstances or people. She limits her conversation to the positive. A wise woman sets a joyful mood in the household. She uses laughter, music and happy times to stir the children to a positive, joyful frame of mind. She knows this light-heartedness helps take stress off her husband. A wise woman gauges her husband’s needs. She seeks to fulfill his desires before even he is aware of them. She never leaves him daydreaming outside the home. She supplies his every desire. A wise woman understands that her husband’s need to be honored is not based on his performance but on his position. She learns quickly to defer with enthusiasm to his ideas or plans. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is God’s will for her life. A wise woman is not pitiful, puny, or whinny. She seeks to be confident, capable and thankful. A wise woman does not dream of what “could have been.” She sees clearly that she is not God’s gift to men; thus she is blessed in her present circumstances. She learns to be content. A wise woman never expects anyone to serve her; therefore she is never disappointed. She is ready to help—a giver. By her example her children learn to serve cheerfully and energetically. A wise woman doesn’t attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions. Her questions are sincere inquiries concerning his will. A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready to hear. She wants to know. She doesn’t cloud her mind with the foolish folly of entertainment. She uses her time wisely.   Originally...

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The Importance of Listening
Nov29

The Importance of Listening

Listening is the ability to accurately receive and interpret messages in the communication process. Listening is key to all effective communication, without the ability to listen effectively messages are easily misunderstood – communication breaks down and the sender of the message can easily become frustrated or irritated. Listening is so important that many top employers provide listening skills training for their employees. This is not surprising when you consider that good listening skills can lead to: better customer satisfaction, greater productivity with fewer mistakes, increased sharing of information that in turn can lead to more creative and innovative work. Many successful leaders and entrepreneurs credit their success to effective listening skills. Richard Branson frequently quotes listening as one of the main factors behind the success of Virgin. Effective listening is a skill that underpins all positive human relationships, spend some time thinking about and developing your listening skills – they are the building blocks of success. See our pages: Employability Skills and Customer Service Skills for more examples of the importance of listening in the workplace. Good listening skills also have benefits in our personal lives, including: A greater number of friends and social networks, improved self-esteem and confidence, higher grades at school and in academic work and even better health and general well-being. Studies have shown that, whereas speaking raises blood pressure, listening brings it down. Listening is Not the Same as Hearing Hearing refers to the sounds that you hear, whereas listening requires more than that: it requires focus. Listening means paying attention not only to the story, but how it is told, the use of language and voice, and how the other person uses his or her body. In other words, it means being aware of both verbal and non-verbal messages. Your ability to listen effectively depends on the degree to which you perceive and understand these messages. The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. ~Rachel Naomi Remen~ The 10 Principles of Listening A good listener will listen not only to what is being said, but also to what is left unsaid or only partially said. Effective listening involves observing body language and noticing inconsistencies between verbal and non-verbal messages. For example, if someone tells you that they are happy with their life but through gritted teeth or with tears filling their eyes, you should consider that the verbal and non-verbal messages are in conflict, they maybe don’t mean what they say. 1. Stop Talking “If we were supposed to talk more than we...

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Simple Happy Thanksgiving Messages
Nov24

Simple Happy Thanksgiving Messages

Thanksgiving Day is a very important festival in United States of America which is celebrated every year and fourth Thursday of the month of November. Extravagant and deluxe traditional dishes, colorful parades, enjoyable sports activity and partying are definitely the most commonly encountered customs during this auspicious festivity. Celebrate Thanksgiving Day with your families and friends and exchange interesting thanksgiving messages and greetings with them. Here are some sample Thanksgiving messages and greetings. 1. Sometimes, most of us find that it’s all easy to ask and demand for favors but unfortunately very hard to thank. I pray that on this Thanksgiving Day, may you have more excellent reasons to thank our God every single day! Happy Thanksgiving! 2. I personally would like to thank our dear God for blessing me with good buddies like you. Happy Thanksgiving Day friend! You are such a good friend to me. 3. Thank all the people you know. Say thank you to your parents, brothers and sisters, friends and neighbors. Thank all your loved ones and relatives, office mates, classmates and teachers. But first, I don’t want to forget to thank a special person in my heart and that is you. Happy Thanksgiving Day. 4. Show me that smile and let us all be thankful. Bring that turkey out and let’s have some cheers. Happy Thanksgiving Day. 5. It is very important to know and understand that we should use our blessings in a good way. By doing this, we can effectively show how thankful we are for all the blessings we’ve got from God. Happy Thanksgiving Day. 6. Happy Thanksgiving Day to all of you! In behalf, of my family, we would like wish you a very beautiful and blessed day with your loved ones. Thank God for He is the source of all the happiness and joy we are experiencing now. Happy Thanksgiving Day. 7. All the best wishes of health, friends, and money to you on this Thanksgiving Day. Enjoy all the blessings He has for you. Happy Thanksgiving Day. 8. Stay happy and spread the love on this Thanksgiving Day. As your friend, I’m so thankful and feel very grateful for having a great friend like you. Cheers my friend and expect more blessings ahead. Happy Thanksgiving Day. Have fun! Celebrate Thanksgiving Day with your families and friends. Share that yummy turkey and join fantastic games on this very special day. And the most important is, never forget to greet your families and friends and simply say “Thank You” on this Thanksgiving Day festival.   Originally...

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8 Effective Ways to Let Go and Move On
Nov05

8 Effective Ways to Let Go and Move On

You are changing.  The universe around you is changing.  Just because something was right for you in the past doesn’t mean it still is.  This could be a relationship, a job, a home, a habit, etc. It happens to you slowly as you grow.  You discover more about who you are and what you want out of life, and then you realize there are deliberate changes you need to make to keep up with the changes happening around you and within you. The lifestyle you’ve been living no longer fits.  The specific people and routines you’ve known forever no longer align with your values.  So you cherish all the memories, but find yourself letting go and moving on. If you’re currently dealing with this process you may feel a bit awkward, and that’s OK.  This feeling is normal.  I’ve been right there with you on more occasions than I can count. Reasons to Let Go and Move On Someone’s negativity is rubbing off on you. – You are the average of the people you spend the most time with.  In other words, who you spend your time with has a great impact on the person you are and the person you become.  If you are around cynical and negative people all the time, you will become cynical and negative. You have grown apart from someone. – Sad but true, no matter what you do or how much you explain yourself, some people will graduallyevolve away from your core values.  As time goes on they will prove over and over again that they are committed to misunderstanding you and clashing with your needs. You are truly unhappy with your current circumstances. – It’s always better to be struggling at something you love than succeeding diligently at something you despise.  (Read Quitter.) Your goals and needs have changed. – What was right for you then is not necessarily right for you now.  Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather realizing that you have changed, and then learning to start over with your new truth. Fear is holding you back. – Part of letting go and moving on is facing the fears and disappointments of the past that are binding your spirit. You catch yourself living in the past. – If all you do is attempt to relive something that has already happened, you’re missing out.  The mental space you create by letting go of things that are already behind you gives you the ability to fill the space with something fresh and fun. An old grudge is still hurting you. – Holding on to the weight of anger, resentment...

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